Wednesday, April 1, 2009

Teen Talk

Being open and honest with your child, especially your teenager is so important, especially in this day and time. Girls feel so much pressure (boys may have some of this pressure, but not all of it) to be thin, attract a mate, lose their virginity, make perfect grades and do volunteer work to get into college, and dress in the very latest fashion to fit in. WIth so much pressure, you wonder how they ever make it to adulthood!

One of the best gifts I think we can give our children is to be open and honest with them no matter what. My closest friends know just how serious I am about this. I would say that Casey knows more about her body than most 40 year old women do. That may be the nurse coming out in me, but I think it's important. Whenever Casey has asked me a question, I have answered her honestly. My philosophy has always been that if she's old enough to ask, she's old enough to know the truth.

It's very important to teach our children about morals and values, but it's also important to teach them about the reality of life. Yes, I'm talking about sex. Teaching them ONLY abstinence and not how to protect themselves, should (or should I say when) the situation arise(s), is doing them a great disservice in my book. It's also possibly putting their lives in danger. When I was younger, it was not talked about as much as it is now. It was all hush, hush for most of us growing up. I don't think it should be like that. I think parents should be able to openly talk about this, and other subjects such as drugs, eating disorders, teen suicide, and peer pressure with their children. They are going to learn it from someone. Isn't it best to come from the parents?

Casey told me recently that all of her friends are saying they learned about all of these things from their friends, siblings, sibling's friends, etc. Casey said she was the only one who told her group of friends that she had learned these things from her mom. How sad is that?

7 comments:

CFlover said...

Kuddos 2 You!!!

Kristin said...

Good for you! It's so scary to think about all the things that are out there and we just hope for the best for our children! I agree that being open and honest is the best way!

Carrie said...

I totally agree with you and I really try to be as open as I can with Emily. She didn't learn about the birds and the bees from me though....she found out about things way earlier then I thought and by then she already knew and it was to late for me to be the one to tell her. Although we have talked about it since then and she knows she can come to me with anything. You are right...it is so sad all the pressures out there to fit in and be all that! Em goes to a Christian private school but the same pressures are there. That was a great post and you are a wonderful mom...Casey is so lucky to have you as her mom....it sounds as if she knows that too!

Katelyn said...

You are one legit momma.

Cara said...

Good for you, Christy! You and Casey obviously have an incredible relationship and I know that will definitely help her make good choices! :)

Layne said...

Amen!! I leared from my cousin (not PRACTICED but learned lol). He drew diagrams and my mom found them and threw a fit. I was in the dark about a ton of stuff even to my early 20s. I want to be open with my kids as well. I just don't know what to do with D since it's not my call... Good job with Casey.

Annie said...

I LOVE your philosophy: If they are old enough to ask they are old enough to know the truth! I have a 2 1/2 year old and a 6 mo. old and I have a lot in store for me - I'm going to take your advice to heart. Thanks!