Wednesday, April 15, 2009

Think before you comment

“For some kinds of thought, especially moral decision-making about other people’s social and psychological situations, we need to allow for adequate time and reflection,” said first author Mary Helen Immordino-Yang of the USC Rossier School of Education.

In other words, when you read something on the internet, whether it be via email, blog post, Twitter update, Facebook update, etc., think about what the other person is saying before you comment, because it may take some time to understand what the other person is saying.

I was so angry at something that happened online last night AND the subsequent email that I received regarding said incident, that I was considering taking a month's break from the computer. Because there were people who jumped to conclusions, formed their own opinions based on other's very quick conclusions (instead of using their brains to formulate their OWN opinion), and didn't take time to try to understand what someone might be trying to convey, there were some very (dare I say) idiotic comments made about said subject. Then to top it off, an email was sent to me about my comment on said subject accusing me of something that made absolutely no sense at all!!!! There was absolutely NO basis for it!

What made me most angry was the fact that people were getting so offended at something that wasn't directed at them in the first place. It seems that people respond before even TRYING to understand someone else's position on something. AND some people respond in an ugly manner if the other person's opinion differs from theirs. When did everyone have to have the same opinion? I didn't get that memo!!!!!

Here is a great article that I encourage you to read if you make any online comments at all.

Sorry for the rant, but I really think that people need to be more open-minded, and realize that there are going to be people out there who have different political/religious belief, life situations, etc, and that's OK! They are also going to have different opinions and shouldn't be scolded because of it. The internet has allowed us to have friends from every kind of culture and background, so doesn't it make sense that opinions are going to vary greatly?

12 comments:

Alicia said...

I don't know if you saw recently where I had to point out someone's comment on my blog. I left the comment up and wrote a long comment about how this is the exact kind of comment not welcome on my blog!

Christy said...

I didn't see it Alicia, sorry!!! I commend you for talking about the comment instead of just deleting it. Sometimes it does need to be addressed!

Jen said...

Amen Cyster!! :)

Carrie said...

I don't have any idea about what went on but I am glad that you confronted it. Also I am glad that you did not leave us for a month. You are one of my favorites in the blogosphere and I would miss you terribly!!

Jason said...

HOW DARE YOU SAY SUCH A NARROW-MINDED THING!!! Just kidding. Luv ewe!! :) I would like to point out to those who read this comment, that the article Christy has linked up is VERY short reading; and VERY informative.

Christy said...

Actually babe, I linked up the long version of it, not the short version you Twitted me. :) Luv ewe too!

Jason said...

People should read it anyway. Peace and joy.

Cindy said...

You got it, Cyster! How boring would it be if everyone had the same opinion. It will never happen, there will always be confict and those who won't think before they speak. Glad you confronted it, and I second Carrie's thought about you leaving us for a month! Nooooo!!!

Also glad you didn't leave us hanging. When I saw your tweets, I was really curious!

Heidi said...

I wish there was a facebook-like place where I could say "I like this". LOL! You have every right to be irritated and upset and evern hurt! I think people jump to hasty conclusions and jump to post/accuse because it's not face to face.

Also, I was curious when you tweeted about it! Hang in there! I APPRECIATE various opinions!!

Tooter's Mommy (Courtney) said...

I was also curious when I read your Twitter comments what had happened.

I'm you chose not to leave us!!

LJ said...

Amen my LL sister:) I don't know why people have to start drama online...they have nothing better to do I guess. How did your appointment go yeaterday? XOXO

Lena said...

i so understand what you mean.. yes, we do have different views and can argue at times and thats ok, we are here to share views and opinions, but when someone didnt bother to go through post and comments just out of the blue it might be insulting..

once my friend wrote a poem about her mom's death and got a comment like "dont worry about the guy, if he left you he does not deserve you. you will move on." I wonder why people do comment at all if they didnt get what the author is talking about.